I read your article about why men look at other women and tried to get my head around it. I find it impossible to get my head around the concept that it is okay for men to be mentally unfaithful while in a loving relationship when it is so hurtful for women to do the same. I have asked my boyfriend of 3 and a half years: if I got off on another man while having sex with him would it bother him. I wonder why it bothers men when women do it but they feel quite justified to do it themselves with little or no conscience? Being devoted to a person is a choice.
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She distanced herself from a sex life with partner of three years John McFadyen, 23, after feeling uncomfortable making love while expecting. With their non-existent sex life, Lauren decided to let her man satisfy his sexual urges with other women. Men need to make love regularly, so I decided I would rather give him my blessing to go out and have fun with other women, otherwise I think he would leave me. It is me he comes home to, so I am completely fine with him having sex with other women. Maria-Louise Warne lets her partner of eight years bed others after he told her he would leave her if she made him become faithful. Teacher Maria-Louise, 59, admits she was horrified when Tim Roch, 58, first suggested it. But Tim, a general practice doctor, views sex as just an act. He reckons sex is just like going to a supermarket — sometimes you fancy bacon and on other occasions you hanker after steak.
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I woke up in a strange bed, naked, between two naked men. I had taken cocaine! The taste in my mouth was hideous, as though tobacco had been glued to my tongue. To my left, an acquaintance — an unclean, predatory type of guy — whom I had never had a liking for. I grabbed my clothes, stumbled to the toilet and threw up over and over until the only thing left in my stomach was guilt. Exactly a year before this awful morning, I left a relationship that had felt increasingly suffocating. For the first time, I found myself free, and I was excited to flirt, kiss and go to bed with other men. My housemates would smirk with knowing looks as I gently shook my throbbing head, and laughed. One-night stands were casual and thrilling, and in the cloudiness of ignorance I thought I was being careful. It seemed funny at the time, but then the summer hit, and things started to change.
Why do many men enjoy the sight of two women in a sexual situation? The answer to your first question is very simple. Men like girls and especially naked girls. Men are more visual. We see a girl naked, especially one who is seductively disrobing or performing sexual acts and our brains are wired to skip our thinking process, frontal cortex region?
