Back to Health A to Z. Premature ejaculation is the most common ejaculation problem. It's where the male ejaculates too quickly during sexual intercourse. A study looking at couples from 5 different countries found the average time taken to ejaculate during intercourse was around 5-and-a-half minutes. Occasional episodes of premature ejaculation are common and are not a cause for concern. However, if you're finding that around half of your attempts at sex result in premature ejaculation, it might help to get treatment.
Difficulty Ejaculating: Myths vs Reality.
Understanding Your Orgasm Reflex.
People now recognize that some women just need much more stimulation to climax. Men who have trouble ejaculating tend to masturbate in particular ways. Many men who have trouble ejaculating tend to move their hand very rapidly when they masturbate. Especially right before orgasm. To see examples of this, just watch some male porn stars in action. Many male porn stars have trouble ejaculating. Same thing for a man who has difficulty ejaculating. He often needs to go fast at the end — which is obviously much easier to do with your own hand, since you can feel confident of not hurting yourself in the process.
Sex therapy
But what if you found it difficult or impossible to climax? Men suffering with DE tend to still feel sexual desire and arousal; they can get and maintain an erection. This can leave you feeling starved of closeness to your partner as well as missing that release of tension and subsequent relaxation, which reaching orgasm can bring.
When I first started out as a sex therapist thirty years ago, I was taught that difficulty ejaculating was rare, that it was very hard to treat, and that it usually suggested deep-rooted psychological problems. The reality is that difficulty ejaculating is rather common. Feel free to skip ahead if you like. Biologically speaking, an orgasm is simply a reflex. Sensory inputs get processed by the central nervous system. Your orgasm reflex is a bit different, since psychological stimulation figures into it too. But the principle is the same. All the erotic inputs — physical and psychological — get added together. They have to be seriously aroused in order to reach orgasm.
