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Your romps in the sack with your S. If you want to heat things up even more but aren't sure where to start, why not have a threesome—with your mirror. Here are nine ways to use a mirror during nookie that would make the evil queen in Snow White proud:.
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But would I be brave enough to actually have sex in front of a mirror? With you know, jiggly and wobbly bits all on show? The challenge was set when Luvsense London invited me to try out their luxury bedroom mirror, which can be clipped into place on the ceiling via a bracket and taken down when not in use. Having sex in front of a mirror means you get to watch what is basically live-streamed, homemade porn with no worries about anyone else accidentally seeing it. However, it means acknowledging what you really look like rather than the idealised, imaginary version. But what if it turned out to be so off-putting that I never wanted to have sex again, unless it was in a complete blackout? I would lose focus on myself and the act and then become super self-concious instead of having a wonderful time with gay abandon. Not for me thanks.
As someone who grew up fantasizing about being a porn star, sexted with strangers from AOL chat rooms, and was something slutty for Halloween ever since I was five, it only makes sense that I grew into a sexual AF adult. It sounds like a hot boost of confidence — perfect for a narcissist like me — but I was a little nervous to try it because it reminds me of one of the worst things that ever happened to me. The X is a trick; it takes you to another link.